De gustibus non est disputandum or Maryanne for the win

I got this picture from another blogger’s site. It was under title “time for a cute brunette”.


Now, the aforementioned blogger has often stated that he has a thing for short-haired brunettes; as such I’m not going to argue against a subjective personal preference. However, as I commented on his site, besides being a slender woman, this picture is a great example of everything wrong with today’s modern woman. That dress is UGLY. That thing in her hair looks stupid. The pose is the opposite of becoming.  But, of course that worst of it is the simian expression. She looks like a chimpanzee is a circus review.

My kids like watching Gilligan’s Island on Amazon video, so while it’s not strictly necessary to go this far back to find one, she is a shining example of what a cute brunette looks like. I humbly give you Dawn Wells.

In my own opinion, Miss Wells transcended “cute” and was a truly beautiful young woman. I have no issues with Tina Louise, who was a beautiful gal in her own right, but it’s always been Maryanne for me. Ginger was a one-trick pony, Maryanne was the complete package.

Sailer nails it again

For example, Katharine Zaleski knows all these awesome African-American women software engineers. And yet, she keeps leaving million dollar bills lying on the sidewalk by trying to talk other firms into hiring them rather than hiring them herself.

Zman has some good commentary on this as well in his latest podcast.


I thought is was because the food is horrible…

My younger son wanted to go last Spring, so we went for lunch on a Sunday. I hadn’t been in 15 years. Several very pretty girls working there. Food was just awful though. Tasted like the fryer oil hadn’t been changed since my last visit. Coaches meeting there a month ago. I went and drank water. Got a Baconator on the way home.


Being fit isn’t everything, but it’s a good start

So, I was looking for some pictures of men near my own age for comparison to what I’ve been able to do this year. I’m a very close match for the left-side version of this gentleman.


I’m 6′ and currently weigh 205 lbs. My abs are slightly more defined than what we see in that low-light picture. His legs must be huge though, if he’s really 220 there. That seems hinky to me. I wonder what his benchpress is. I’m closing in on my goal of 400 lb BP by year end.

On the right side he has put on some muscle in his pecs, arms and shoulders. His obliques are also more pronounced. He seems very pleased and I congratulate him for achieving this goal, but really he’s already well into the land of diminishing returns as far as attractiveness goes.

It’s well known that men place a much higher premium on how visually attractive a woman is, than women place on male physical attractiveness. Men are probably 80% visual, vs. women’s 25% or so. Women place much higher value on on a man’s status, wealth, and power.

What I’m taking a long time to say is that Mr. Leftside is already good enough visually for 95+% of women. Doing any more is really just to please yourself, which is perfectly fine, just realize that that time is probably better spent on other self-improvement pursuits. Personally, I don’t want to maintain the diet required to get down to <8% body fat.

I’ve been wanting to post this pic for a while.


Lefty is definitely fit enough to pursue even this beautiful creature, but he’s gonna need sufficient game, finances, and status to close the deal with her. The time and effort he spent in those 3 years would pay more dividends if he had started his own successful company or gotten a major promotion at work.

Divorce lawyer gives mostly good advice

Linked at Instapundit:

Open your ears

Take a break from talking about yourself. Ask your spouse how they feel, what happened to them at work that day, what their opinion is on politics, or cars, or food — anything that shows you care about what they have to say. I had one husband who filed for divorce, and on the stand he told the judge, “I love my wife; I just wish she would listen to me.”

Sounds like good advice, but I think we all know that women really don’t have any interest in what their men do unless there’s a chance it impacts the woman directly.


Quit streaming adult sites

Porn is not a togetherness thing. Don’t pressure your wife to watch “Game of Bones” if she’s not into it. Try romance. Bring home flowers. After the kids come along, don’t neglect each other.

Porn is definitely a symptom of something being wrong in the bedroom. Men who have a satisfying sex life don’t watch porn.

Match your money attitudes

Don’t get into the habit of giving or expecting expensive gifts for every occasion. One young guy I represented started with a $10,000 check to his wife on their first anniversary and went upward from there. One year, he gave her 200 shares of IBM! She came to feel entitled, and it caused resentment.

Stupid Beta tried to buy affection. It can only be rented fellas, and the price goes up each time.


Don’t cheat

If you do, however, don’t leave tracks. I had a case where a wife used [infidelity website] Ashley Madison to find extramarital flings. When hackers leaked the site’s user data in 2015, she was humiliated and ended up accepting a poor settlement in the divorce because she feared her ex would go public.

Cheating is just wrong. If you’re unhappy then leave. Anything else is just selfish.



Allow for changing bodies

Wedding vows should really include “for fatter, for thinner.” This is a delicate area, but I’ve seen real conflict occur when spouses drift into different fitness levels. I had a prospective client tell me he would ogle women in bikinis at the beach and contrast them with his wife, who had gained a lot of weight. He said he felt like a hungry man in a restaurant looking at steak on other men’s plates.

Nope. No way. If you get fat prepared to be dumped. A guy who marries a fat woman can’t later complain that she’s fat, but if marries a thin woman and she gets fat then she has broken the contract a la bait and switch. OTOH, if the guy gets fat, the wife is justified in not wanting his sweaty carcass crushing her into the mattress each night.


Go easy on the plastic surgery

It’s your right to go under the knife, but it’s your spouse’s right not to like your new face. I had one client whose wife would say she was getting a mole removed, then she’d be gone for three days and come back barely looking like herself. I had another client, Alec Wildenstein, whose wife Jocelyn was known as the “Bride of Wildenstein.” Need I say more?

Seems like a real NYC/LA problem, but OK. No radical changes that basically change your appearance into something unrecognizable.


Don’t travel under tension

Differences are magnified when you’re alone together. A vacation is like being in solitary confinement for two. I had a client who went on a cruise with his wife, and she followed him around the boat just to argue. When a bad storm blew in, he sat outside in rain and rough seas just to get away from her. He was in my office the day after docking.

I cancelled a trip to Hawaii when my wife failed to keep her end of a bargain. I wasn’t going to enjoy myself, so why pay the money? She thought I was gonna cave, but I held frame and she has actually seemed to learn a little something from it.


Don’t shop together

You see bored men in department stores all the time, even in Victoria’s Secret. They don’t want to be there. Besides, do you really want approval on every skirt or shirt? Keep the mystery going. Shopping can set off crazy arguments, anyway: I had a case where the husband didn’t like the clothes his wife had picked out and followed her into the dressing room to tell her. Their argument got heated, he pushed her, and she ended up running out in her underwear. Once she got dressed, she called me.

Yeah, fuck that. She’s going to buy what she likes (or thinks her friends will like) anyway.


Act your age

People are living longer, and those little blue pills can make men behave in hurtful ways. I represented Jolanda Addolori, who’d been married to actor Anthony Quinn for 30 years. Quinn put Jolanda on the ice floe after deciding, at 82, that he wanted to be with his young secretary and their two babies. It was a very expensive choice — Quinn settled for a huge sum and was dead within four years.

Quinn had already had two kids with his secretary and Jolanda was still married to him? That guy was a bad-ass. More power to him. Lost some money in the divorce? Well he couldn’t take it with him so “So what”?


Get a prenup (or a postnup)

A producer client of mine had given his wife an emerald necklace and matching earrings that had once belonged to the queen of Belgium. Cost a bundle. When his wife filed for divorce, he wanted to claim that he was only letting the wife “borrow” them. With no prenup to back him up, I told him that the judge would only believe him if he walked into court wearing the jewelry himself. The guy chickened out, and the wife got the baubles.

Any guy who’s had a pre-nup thrown out in court can tell you they’re a total waste of money. Judges can toss out a pre-nup for any reason they want; you’re just giving money to lawyers for nothing.

Here’s to not looking at so much of you …

Because I am a humanitarian and love to give and give until it hurts, I submit this uplifting essay to fat chicks everywhere who need to hear these 14 things for their mental health and mortal souls. 14 things every fat girl absolutely needs to hear: push away from the table coffee, not sugary milkshake […]

via 14 Things Every Fat Girl Absolutely Needs To Hear — Chateau Heartiste

  1. push away from the table
  2. coffee, not sugary milkshake with coffee added
  3. eat less, exercise better
  4. weight room, not treadmill
  5. fatness ruins your health and quality of life
  6. your romantic life will suffer because men prefer slender women
  7. if you are a white fatty, your odds of mudsharking rise
  8. intermittent fasting and portion control are your friends
  9. curvy doesn’t mean beach ball. it means hourglass.
  10. you’ll have to put out faster to keep a man’s interest
  11. even an extra five pounds makes a difference to men
  12. the fatter you are, the lonelier you’ll be
  13. the fatter you are, the farther down you’ll have to settle to find a man willing to stick with you
  14. excuses and feminist boilerplate won’t make men hard for you


Exercise is to fitness as diet is to weight loss. That goes for everybody, but it’s especially important for females who have less muscle mass on average to remember. You can’t out-exercise a bad diet.

Take three and call me in the morning…

Beer is fun, but it can also make you feel better. A new study from the University of Greenwich found that three or four beers can ease your pain better than some over the counter painkillers.

That works for me. A tasty IPA is much more appealing than swallowing some pills, especially as acetaminophen does nothing for me re: pain or muscle aches. I do get good results from naproxen. Its on my very short list of drugs that actually work as advertised.


Let’s make it in America, again

The above links to an interesting series of articles about how much manufacturing capability has been lost and the problems with getting it back to U.S. shores. The author talks a lot about new management philosophies (traditional vs. agile/scrum), which I think is actually missing the forest for the trees. It’s more about thinking  long-term and about thinking national good vs. global markets.

Frankly, its kind of depressing, but there does seem some good news:

Foxconn, known for making the iPhones and iPads in China (and having their employees commit suicide due to working conditions is apparently going to build a factory in Wisconsin to make the screens for automobile in-dash displays among other things. Hopefully this will lead to bigger things overall ( and no suicides).

And it starts early, preschool even

We see a continuing pattern in schools, where the simple urges and fascinations of boyhood are considered too dangerous to be allowed: Boys fantasize of conflict, they love to test their strength against their fathers in mock fights, they’re aggressive, and daydream about battle. Many of the games they prefer involve death and destruction. While…

via Boys are treated like defective girls — Isegoria

One of my older son’s preschool “teachers” spoke to us about his “troubling behavior”. There were three boys and 8 girls in his class/group. We spoke to the parents of the other boys informally at drop off/pickup and they also said that she had talked to them about their sons. Apparently not being a girl was the real issue. Not wanting to sit around and make snowflake doilies all day is a problem worthy of a psych referral.

Boys need fathers and other male role models; coaches/teachers/(I would say scout leaders, but scouting is dead to me) to learn from. Most women simply don’t “get” boys, and its not their fault (or the boys).  Boys love being praised by men, older boys. It simply means more coming from a more experienced male. These days boys are taught to fear men (even their own fathers) and masculine pursuits so that they’ll be better cattle.