from a blog recommended at the bottom of my Reader page:
For the last week I’ve been watching the #MeToo movement rise and fall in the media. Women are sharing, in great detail, personal experiences in order to highlight just how pervasive the problem of sexual harassment and assault really is.
What I’m also noticing is that men, on the whole, have been largely silent.
Now, I hope–sincerely–the relative silence is about allowing a safe space for women to talk about their experiences without trying to interrupt or explain why those experiences are wrong or mistaken or taken out of context. Sincerely.
My worry, however, is the silence is due to many men not hearing what women are shouting over the chasm. The chasm which exists between the way women define and view sexual assault, harassment, and consent, and the way that men do. That chasm is so wide and deep when you shout across it no one on the other side can hear you. All you get in return is a fading echo.
The reason most men (if they’re not totally clueless) are not engaging is that they know 1. That their opinions are not wanted:
(from a blog linked at the above post)
Dear Matt Walsh and others,
Hear me loud, and hear me clear. When a woman, a group of women, several million women say “My experience as a woman is this” you don’t get to say with any merit “No, it’s not.”
It really is that simple. You are not a woman. You have never lived your life as a woman. You have never lived a life filtered through the lens of being female. Therefore it cancels out your opinion. It invalidates it. Have it, spout it, shout it from the rooftops if you like. It’s still worthless and invalid.
Yes, that’s right. I called your opinion worthless and invalid.
and 2. These “conversations” are worthless to men as nothing is ever achieved/settled/agreed on that woman won’t disavow the second it suits them, so the smart man doesn’t bother wasting his time. Anything less than total capitulation by men is seen as misogyny by women.